Want to grow? Invite feedback !
Long weekend Monday. Thunderstorms with the typical lightening bolts flashing consistently kept my two infants inside with no television, movies or computer. Out come the games, the playdoe and lots of crafts.
The 5 year old is still struggling with what the professionals call “fine motor skills”. Scissors are held upside down, sideways and occasionally the right way. The paper rips in places it’s not supposed to rip, gets cut in places that shouldn’t be cut and generally doesn’t end up with a satisfactory result.
With some suggestions, a bit of help with holding the paper, turning it as required and the second attempt made him a lot happier.
I could have let him be. I could have watched, knowing he would eventually learn how to cut better. Maybe by Grade 2 or 3 he’d have mastered it and his struggles would be a thing of the past.
But I didn’t. I chose to offer some advice, some guidance on ways he could improve the task he was trying to do.
Never once did my little son complain that I was criticising him for the suggestions I offered to help his skill level grow. Never once did my little guy pout, stamp his feet and tell me how negative I was being towards him. He knew I was offering those suggestions to help him grow, to support him as he grew as a person and with his skill level. He’s a smart little guy.
Many adults don’t get it.
Especially in the network marketing industry.
How would you know you need to improve if your upline, sponsor, or sideline lavishes praise all over every piece of work, a 3 way call, an article, classified ad, poster, business card or whatever you do when in fact it needs improvement. It’s missing the point. It’s off target. It’s ineffective. It’s not going to grow your business !
What’s up with that?
Do you think you’re helping that person? Do you think they are going to improve if you’ve told them what they are doing is “excellent” even when it’s not?
What’s your role? To be a dishonest cheerleader? Or would you prefer to help them improve?
I pick improvement. I invite feedback. It’s the only way to grow !
To your success,
Skype: joyce.penner
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Well that's a great reality check ;o)
Criticism is sometimes hard to hear. The first time I encountered it openly was while taking a painting class. I was afraid at first, but it did help tremendously.
I will gladly listen to your critiques anytime!
Great post Joyce! Yes we all need that friend criticism in order to grow. A lot of network marketers take offense to criticism and don't want to be targeted where in fact it's helping them.